A short and significant comment

Previously, I wrote my dilemma and I mentioned that "HF is holding me back with emotional blackmails and threats", well, that is no longer valid.

She was/is not holding me back but is now more supportive & confident in trusting our relationship as I have managed to convinced her to look at things more openly and with a more objective mindset. In fact, she has never held me back as those emotional blackmails and threats could not amount to the natural meaning of being held back, but rather a state of feelings in which I felt really bad about having made my decisions without much explanation as to what I have decided.

Therefore, this short posting would have negate the words "... is holding [me] back" in that posting.